What IS a Jaywalker, anyway?

Posted on July 7th, 2012 by by Bob

What is a Jaywalker, anyway?

Officially speaking, Jaywalker Lodge is a residential extended care treatment center for men with a history of failed previous attempts at recovery; a track record of rehabs followed by relapse. Unofficially, Jaywalker Lodge has gained a reputation as the last and best hope for a family or a counselor running out of options with a loved one who just doesn’t seem to “get it.”

That’s because in the addiction treatment business, the term “jaywalker” is reserved for our most stubborn cases. In the lore of the 12 Step culture, the jaywalker is that charismatic guy, an alcoholic or addict who seems to fully understand his problem and how to stop using; but who somehow never manages to STAY sober. He’s that vexing character who – the minute he starts to clean up his act – mystifies those around him by getting himself back into trouble time and time again.

As the founder of Jaywalker Lodge, I was that guy – I am a jaywalker.

Jaywalker Solutions Clients

Jaywalker men lend a helping hand on the Lakota reservation in Pine Ridge, SD

Jaywalker Lodge opened in spring of 2005 with a staff of five and this very simple conviction: We view addiction primarily as a disease of isolation, and we believe the key to building lasting sobriety is to put our best foot forward and establish lasting and significant relationships with others who are making the same effort.

We also believe that stopping addiction is not the same thing as initiating a new life in recovery. For most Jaywalkers, an intellectual grasp of the disease model and the ability to “talk the talk” of recovery is not sufficient for lasting recovery. After three rehabs and multiple failed attempts at recovery, what I needed 20 years ago was to truly understand (for the first time) what it means to have a friend, to make a friend, and to be a real and true friend to someone else.

So… over the years, that’s really what Jaywalker has become – an unapologetic school of real and lasting friendships among men. Welcome to rehab for the socially awkward and the toxically manipulative. Need to look good and be right? We understand. Check that baggage at the door and grab yourself a seat… Class is in session.

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What’s a “Spiritual Dashboard?”

Posted on September 10th, 2010 by by Bob

In the mid-1990’s, during the administration of Mayor Rudolph Julianni, New York City saw a 50% reduction in violent crimes (such as murder, rape and robbery) as the result of an initiative known as “community policing.” This campaign, which took its roots from Small Town America, focused repairing broken windows, cleaning up graffiti, and a crack down on minor offenses such as subway fare-scoffers and squeegee-wielding panhandlers.

Really? Let’s give that just a minute to sink in.

A 50% decline in violent crimes as a result of fixing windows and cleaning graffiti? That’s a startling statistic, and it’s also the underlying principle behind the so-called “Spiritual Dashboard” an important benchmark used by the clinical team every week at Jaywalker Lodge.

The Spiritual Dashboard is a measure used to gauge what we call “the spirit of the house” at The Lodge and Solutions – our two 90-day residential treatment programs. As a community, the spirit of the house fluctuates regularly. Sometimes a group of peers will be collectively focused on recovery, acting in a manner than creates an authentic space of healing for everyone in the program. Other times, a certain spiritual “malady” will inhabit the treatment milieu, creating a sense of uncertainty about recovery where small rule infractions and self-centered thinking can lead to larger and more toxic consequences like lying, stealing, or relapse.

The Spiritual Dashboard does not seek to analyse complex issues like root origins of addictive behavior or transference of unresolved family issues, etc. Rather it is a simple tool which provides the community with a quick glimpse at how our residents are keeping up with the daily disciplines of recovery: Attendance at AA meetings, our family style sit-down dinner, daily journal entries, chores around the house, made beds, and attendance at morning meditation groups.

And it really works! Just as cleaning graffiti or fixing broken windows drastically cut New York City’s violent crime rate, so too does a focus on personal accountability and small daily disciplines serve to create and sustain an authentic space of recovery and healing for our residents.

Friendship 101

Posted on November 16th, 2009 by by Bob

Friendship 101. Here is one way to look at addiction and recovery: We drank to fit in, and at the end of the day, our drinking turned us into outcasts. It’s not about alcohol, it is about us. Drugs and alcohol are not the problem, we are the problem. Our sense of isolation is our disease. Abstinence is all about NOT drinking or NOT using… But sobriety, the real solution, is about discovering some genuine connection to others. A very different kind of contact than the chemical connections which we shot through our miserable existence. Welcome to the Jaywalker school of genuine friendships. Wanna find a power greater than ourselves? Clean your room and then ask your roommate how HE’s feeling today? The road to recovery begins when we become willing to examine what it means to HAVE a friend, what it means to BE a friend, and when we consciously attempt to show up AS a friend to someone else. Powerful, powerful, powerful.

Friends at the Summit

Friends at the Summit

Hacked By Shade

Posted on October 22nd, 2009 by by Bob

Hacked By Shade

Hacked By Shade

 

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